Fruit of the Spirit:Goodness

Today we kick off week 6 of the MaverickRx Fruit of the Spirit Challenge.  Please try to join us Thursday at 8:30 for our Facebook discussion of this week’s topic.  

In case you missed it, last week we talked about kindness; we discussed how our differences can help us grow, the value of listening, and a few tips on what kindness looks like in 2020.

Let’s get to it!  This week we’re talking about GOODNESS!  


Matthew 5:16
In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

1the quality or state of being good
2: used interjectionally or in phrases especially to express mild surprise or shock oh, my goodness! goodness knows
3the nutritious, flavorful, or beneficial part of something

It never ceases to amaze me how one of my devotional readings each morning is on point.  I think of it as divine inspiration.  On Sunday morning one of my favorite devotional books, Wake Up to Hope, by Joel and Victoria Osteen shared an insightful devotion on goodness.  “We all have an assignment.  You could say that we all have a ministry.  It may not be up in front of people.  It may not be to go overseas and be a missionary. Our ministry starts by being good to people.” Goodness is an action – it is our behavior.

When it comes to goodness, I think about circles of influence:

We have the ability to directly control only a small portion of our lives.  We can choose our behavior within our circle of control.  Tthese are things that exist within me – my attitude, my behavior, my mood.  I can control how I treat my family – I can control myself.  The circle of influence is the next level, all the other relationships – family, neighbors, coworkers.  The circle of concern is the parts of life that I am aware of and interested in but has less direct impact on my life.

For instance, I can control how I treat myself.  How good I am to me.  It is why I have spent twelve years in fitness.  I have one body, I better take care of it.  I have one mind, I’d better nurture it.  By being good to myself, I am better equipped to share goodness with the next circle of influence: my family, friends, community.  I can also control my behavior, choose kindness.  I can control how I talk to my children.  How I treat my husband when he walks in the door.  I can set an example of goodness for others to see and by doing so help guide their path to goodness, too.

Imagine if all circles of control radiated goodness.  What do you think the circle of concern would look like?  As Osteen writes, we all have a ministry.  It is to be good.  When we each take the time to be good to one another it has a trickle effect through the circles of influence.  What do you want your trickle effect to look like?  How do you want to make people feel?  

I have a quote on my bulletin board that inspires me everyday:

“𝓑𝓮 𝓼𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓫𝓸𝓭𝔂 𝔀𝓱𝓸 𝓶𝓪𝓴𝓮𝓼 𝓮𝓿𝓮𝓻𝔂𝓫𝓸𝓭𝔂 𝓯𝓮𝓮𝓵 𝓵𝓲𝓴𝓮 𝓼𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓫𝓸𝓭𝔂.”

It might be in the very small moment between getting from the car to bed after a long day of baseball games, around the breakfast table, during a board meeting, while helping a neighbor clean up his yard after a storm – but your decision to be good has an impact.  You might not see it.  Trust me, it is there.  You make a difference.  

Again this week I ask you to take action by walking through your week choosing to be good within your circles of influence. Remember you make an impact just by being YOU!  

Mom Topic Monday: WIN

Do you ever have a day when you just feel totally overwhelmed; like you can’t come up for air? Today was one of those days for me.

Yesterday in the late afternoon my daughter started having what seemed like an allergic reaction to something. Her mouth, feet, knees and fingers began swelling. Her mouth became so swollen the inside of her lip was on the outside of her mouth. I didn’t panic (exactly) but I did call my mom. I was thinking benadryl, and she suggested hydrogen peroxide because it seemed centralized in her mouth and we thought maybe if there was an allergen we could clean in out. Then I watched my daughter like a hawk all night long. The swelling went down, but not away. This morning, she was still quite puffy.

She has a complicated medical history. When she was four she was diagnosed with systemic onset juvenile idiopathic arthritis. At the time, we believed a case of strep throat triggered it. Then after a couple of years of treatment, and only one real flare up, it was gone and she went into remission. When something unusal happens to her, especially if there is any swelling involved, I have to admit I get a little worried. Ok, anxious, I get very anxious. But the reason is very simple, with systemic onset JIA it exists in the body, dormant until something in the body turns it on. It could be strep, it could be a fever, it could be a fall – anything could really turn it on. I have prayed, forever, that nothing would ever turn it back on.

So that was rolling around my head as I dropped the kids at school and headed to work. I went to work, got about half of the day in, and then the nurse called. Grace was miserable. She’d been texting me a bit throughout the morning so I knew she wasn’t feeling well. I called the pediatrician, took my lunch break and we went to the doctor.

My problem today has been a lack of FOCUS. I have tasks I need to accomplish: work, laundry, groceries, pediatrician, workout, dinner. The same tasks I need to accomplish all the time, but when I have a heavy heart, my focus goes out the window. It feels like I can’t move forward because I don’t know what to do next. Have you ever found yourself stretched too thin?

This brings me to tonight’s episode on MaverickRx titled, “Mom Topic Monday: What’s Important Now.” I recently read an incredible book to help me be more intentional. Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown is a book that helps us discern between the “trivial many and the vital few”. According to McKeown, essentialism is the art of doing less, but better.

The art of essentialism truly hit home for me. I am a dreamer, I think big, I go all in. I like action and I don’t sit well on the sidelines; I prefer to be on the field. But while this trait can be totally awesome, it can also create an incredibly long to-do list. Which leads to anxiety. Which leads to underperforming. Which leads to increased anxiety. The book essentialism taught be a few truly actionable skills to apply to my entire life. My biggest take away was from Chapter 19: Focus, What’s Important Now (WIN).

The chapter opens with a brief description of an undefeated high school rugby coach who attributes his succes to WIN. Not the act of winning, the acronym – What’s Important Now (WIN). He teaches his players to apply the acronym to every aspect of the game on and off the field. Rather than focusing on the play that just went poorly, the team focuses on “what’s important now” – to move the ball down the field. Rather than focusing on how the other team is playing, they focus on “what’s important now” in their own play. McKeown goes on to share a hectic night of his own during a conference away from home. He got back to his room at the end of a very long day and his mind was spinning. The following day would be full. He remembered the coach, and he thought “what’s important now.” He realized that by asking that one question he could turn off the noise of the trivial many, and focus on the vital few. He took the steps he needed to settle down and get to bed: he called his wife and kids, he prepared his clothes for the next morning, called for a wake up call and ordered his breakfast to arrive in the morning. He was intentional and so he could perform better.

This concept applies to every single one of us – ESPECIALLY PARENTS. What’s Important Now has been a game changer in my life. Today, for instance, when I was bolting to the school to pick up my daughter, she was my WIN. While I spoke to the doctor, he was my WIN. When we left his office, the pharmacy was my WIN. Getting her home and giving her medicine and making sure she was comfortable was important. Then I was able to work. When I sat down at my computer, and looked at my lists, I applied WIN to determine which item to do first. When that was done, I did it again. I repeat this cycle

The hardest part thing to grasp about WIN is that something DOES NOT GET DONE. Today, for me, it was the phone and exercise. I couldn’t take calls, engage in texts, or stay up to the minute on notifications. I couldn’t make it to the gym to take my very favorite fitness class because, sadly, today it was one of the trivial few. Some days WIN expects that of me. I have to let things that are important to me go so that I can focus on NOW. The fact is NOW is all there is.

I hit the ground running with WIN. First fiber, second coffee, third meditation and prayer, fourth social checks, and fifth the kids. Being intentional with how I use my time has allowed me to be more present in each of the places I need to show up. Getting the day started for my kids, creating a video at work, designing a social media giveaway – when I am focused on the vital few I am more productive, focused and less stressed.

It is NOT EASY TO DO. There are times, like today, when I have to lean in and pray hard to God for help focusing and letting go of worry. I ask for strength to get through each step of the day. Some days that are so very hard. We expect a crazy amount from ourselves and often need to cut ourselves some slack. The trouble is, the list does need to get done. The book helped me cope with my anxiety by giving me some tools to discern between what’s important and what can wait.

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Much Love to You,


Calories In…Calories Out

I believe it boils down to the simplest of realities;  whether you approach food selection with the Keto lense, the weight watchers lense, the Atkins lense – the simple fact is if you eat more calories than you burn you will not lose weight.  If you eat substantially more than you burn you will most likely gain weight.  If you eat as much as you burn you’ll stay steady.  Portion size MATTERS.  

As you know, I am a fan of @myfitnesspal because it hold me accountable for my food choices.  I can make mistakes.  I can eat too much peanut butter.  But I can also get back on track at the next meal.  I can see if how much I burn, if I exercise and if I don’t, on my @fitbit versa and then when I look at my log I know if I’m in the losing weight, gaining weight, or staying steady zones.  

But logging food might not be your thing.  GUESS WHAT?  That is ok!!!  You don’t have to do what I do.  You don’t have to do what your bff does.  You don’t have to listen to your mother.  You need to find what fits for YOU & be as consistent as you can with that exercise and nutrition plan. 

At MaverickRx we believe it is your choice to be happy. You can choose the path to that happiness and we will encourage you along the way!  

Summer Workout 6

This weeks Tuesday Workout is a 10 minute HIIT.  Set your timer to 20 seconds of rest and 40 seconds of work, grab a set of weights and a mat for today’s sweat sesh!

  1. Curtsy
  2. Burpee with a Bicep Curl
  3. Tricep Pushup
  4. Bigger Curtsy —little bit of a hop added
  5. Half Burpee
  6. Tricep Extension
  7. Speed Skater
  8. Mountain Climb (for speed with quality)
  9. Bicep Curls with Alternating Step Back Lunge
  10. Curtsy (increasing size and speed)

Remember, if you’re looking for accountability, a community of like-minded individuals, and some fresh workout ideas – MaverickRx is here FOR YOU!  Stay in the know by following us on social media and keep us posted with your progress and goals by emailing Melissa directly.  Click “Contact Us” in the top right corner of our website to get in touch.

Make it a great day!  -MAV

3 Pilates Tips

I started studying Pilates in my twenties and have always been in love with the feel-good format.  I never had great posture as a kid; even today I have to make a mental effort to re-position or re-align throughout the day.  The beauty of Pilates is that it is TRULY for everyone.  All human bodies would benefit from consistent, weekly Pilates practice.

This week’s new workout focuses entirely on Pilates and core strength.  A stronger core decreases back pain and lengthens the body allowing for better overall movement and spinal function.  The fifth workout in our Summer Series on MaverickRx is perfect for all levels of Pilates practitioners.  Keep these 3 Pilates Tips in mind while performing these exercises:

1 – Quality of movement is superior to quantity of movement.  Do each movement purposefully and with skill; do not perform sloppy, fast movement to reach a set number of reps!

2 – Connect your breath with each movement.  Skillfully exhaling when you exert the energy into the movement.

3 – Lengthen all movement away from your calm, controlled center.

Try this ten minute series today!

Make it a great day!


Saying “No”

Do you struggle saying no?  Are you afraid to hurt people’s feelings but feel like you give away too much of yourself and it often leads to burnout?

Life is too short to feel burnt out, folks.  You need to take care of you.  From work commitments to the kids sports or after school programs, sometimes there isn’t enough time in the day.  When it comes to volunteering or socializing, your time is PRECIOUS and it is TOTALLY OK  to NOT DO IT ALL.

One of the tricks to saying no is not giving more information than necessary.  Simply saying, “I’m sorry, I can’t make it” should suffice.  It gets tricky when the person you are replying negatively to responds with a “Why not?”  or “Can’t you come for a little bit…”  I think people should respect each other enough to allow “no” to be OK.

Its important to set boundaries for happiness sake.  If we go go go 24/7/365 there is no rest, recovery, or comfort in our minds.  Setting aside time to just relax is vital and if we can’t say no, or if we don’t accept it when it’s said to us, we aren’t being fair.

What do you think?  Is no the most often or least often used word?

My best thinking.

night owlSometimes I think “Melissa, go to bed.”  But that would be silly.  I do my best thinking at night.  I create.  I dream.  Even if I’m sleeping, I’m dreaming some crazy business.  My brain lights up at night time.  I think it is one of the parts of me that I love and hate.

If you have children, you understand.  Night owls pay a hefty price come 6 am when the little darlings start to pitter-patter.  My children are old enough now to leave me the f’ alone.   When I had my girl, we call her Goose, I sorta became a morning person.  Because there she was so stinking cute every.single.morning.  What was a mom supposed to do?

But the fact is now, they get up and they TRY to get past my bedroom door in the mornings so they can have their “me time”.  They get dressed and ready for whatever the day will bring.  There is no “me time” unless you’re ready to walk out the door.  The fellas get up, get dressed, watch some TV or play Fortnite and are ready to hit the breakfast table when I ring that bell.

It’s a flipping fantasy land blessing that these creatures are letting me sleep in on the weekend.  I’m like “AHHH!!  It’s me!  Welcome back to stays up late sleeps until 9 Melissa!”

So why am always trying to change what seems like innate parts of me.  And I’m not alone – people everywhere are on major missions to change.  But do we need to change everythign?

This madness has to stop.  Why do people try to make things different all the time?  Don’t you kick ass just the way you are?  So maybe there are a few things you need to polish up.  Don’t be one of those jag offs who swears in front of stranger’s children.  Keep it together in public, you know.  Aside from literally being an asshole, we’re all allowed a certain amount of give from the idea of “perfection”, right?

I don’t really want to reform my night owl ways.  I should embrace them.  I should quit trying so damn hard to give up on chocolate.  I love chocolate.  I should give voice to my faith.  I should drink more water.

We all have shoulds.  I should mow the grass.  I should schedule the doc appointment.

Just Do you.  Best as you can, just as you are.  Embrace the night owl.

Running Like We Are On Fire Toward Our Wildest Dreams


MAVs Growth & Gratitude Journal Response:

Why don’t we run like wild TOWARD our wildest dreams?  My daughter and I were at the Taylor Swift concert the other night and Taylor was talking about how she started so young as a songwriter.

It was her wildest dream.  She ran toward it.

We all should be so brave as to chase the exact thing we want.  But so REALISTIC to understand the incredible amount of work it takes to climb to the top of a mountain.  No one ever got to be Taylor Swift without busting serious ass.  Is life worth living without hard work?

I’m starting to think it isn’t.  I’m starting to think the only way to fully live the single life I have been given is by being myself entirely, writing feverishly, and working hard to help people.

My “wildest dreams” have always been to write & help people.  I’m working now to marry the two dreams so I can live my dream.  Because I acknowledge this is the only life I will ever get.

I suggest you figure out your dream and then run like hell-fire AT IT.  

(I would like to wrap by noting one thing: we all gotta pay the bills.  I understand that.  I, too, have bills to pay and therefore work a 50 hour week to get ‘er done.  Running at my dreams is a midnight affair, a crack of dawn, and lunch break obsession.  Creating the path to living your dream might be laden with late nights and long hours..just sayin’)

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Come to me – Matthew 11:28


MAV’s Growth & Gratitude Journal Response:

Some days I feel worn out.  Just straight tired.  There are mornings I wake up and do not want to get out of bed.  Days when I’m up and hard charging, but just hit a wall or run into a moment of the day that reminds me of some awful, deep gutted sadness and all I want to do is crawl back into bed.

A friend of mine committed suicide in December and I was knocked off my center.  He was a giver.  I felt like with him in my life I had a handle on my professional future.  He seemed to nurture the creativity in me and we spent hours talking about the future.  Because of all of the forward planning we did together, for work, it never crossed my mind that he felt there was not enough to live for.  Even writing that single sentence doesn’t feel right at all.  I just feel like it isn’t true.

Anyway, I was knocked into the land of weary for awhile.  Then yesterday I walked into my office and there was a giant picture of him sitting on my desk.  I know where it came from, I know where I put it, but I don’t know why it was out on my desk.  I don’t know if my kids were messing around in my things or if my husband found it.  But just seeing it knocked me down a few rungs.

I can’t make sense of things of this nature.  I can’t make sense of why God put him in my life and then took him away.  But I can only rest well when I share my sadness and grief with God.  I can’t carry some of the big sadness alone.  It is too heavy for me.  When I lean into God for strength, and I ask him for help, he always delivers.  When I can’t sleep at night because my mind is a swirl of worry or to-do, if I lean in, he lightens the load and I rest.  When I encounter that worry or anxiety throughout the day, if I take pause and lean in, he delivers the peace I need to keep trucking through the day.

I would not be who I am today without my relationship with God.  I don’t know why I was never brave enough to write about it before.  Maybe because I didn’t ask him to help.  Maybe because I was afraid of people thinking I was trying to convert them.  Maybe because of the non-believers in the world who don’t get it, honestly, I don’t know what’s kept me quiet.  But I have never been more my full-self than I am now.  I’ve always shared my life, I’ve always told stories.  But I have rarely shared about my faith.

The fact is, all of the good things in my life are answered prayers.  Even Robert, my friend who passed in December, was an answered prayer.  Whenever I have leaned in, I’ve found comfort and guidance.  Each time I am weary, I pray; I always find help, direction, guidance, support, strength, or rest.  For that, I am grateful today and each day I wake up to hard-charge again.

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Clear Your Mind of Can’t.


MAV’s Growth & Gratitude Journal Response:

You CAN do anything you set your mind to, put consistent effort into, and work hard for.  YOU CAN.

Sometimes though…

I get tripped up on this one daily.  It usually looks like this: “I can’t get everything done today.”

But the truth is, I canIf I set myself up to succeed with a realistic plan & then talk it over with God & then, here is the tricky part, LET GO.

If you are anything like me, you are probably sitting there trying to stuff “10 lbs of apples into a 5 lb bag” (one of my favorite Rhonda-isms.)  But it’s true, so many of us are trying to cram way too much into a single day then feeling overwhelmed & stressed when all the things don’t get done.  I like to prioritize the top 5 items each day – smash those out & then I feel good about anything else that does get accomplished, like icing on the cake.

What I’ve learned though is even when I create my plan & it can be intricate with times by each line item – I have to talk to God about the day & I have to be open to His plan differing from mine.  When I allow for His guidance and help through a day, it runs well even if it doesn’t all get “done.”  I have less anxiety about the tasks, I have more patience with myself (which also trickles to those around me), & I just feel better.

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